Learn how an introverted, alcoholic mute mastered psychological warfare and became a verbal hitman for a top NYC law firm.
It’s a dog eat dog world. Survival of the fittest, and if you don’t have what it takes, they will walk all over you and win. They will win everything.
This world is cruel. And trust me, if you haven’t seen the worst of it, your verbal opponent will have NO MERCY. Once you are embarrassed, defeated and your reputation is damaged, they will not stop to pound your emotional body into submission. There is no reason why you cannot put your opponent to rest! But give yourself some credit, you at least your getting close to having a professional argument, even if you haven’t accomplished the goal, you still want to defend yourself, correct and punish your opponent, and gain the higher ground.
Your argumentative style is vulnerable to attack as well. If you can be predicted, you lose. Different styles can be used effectively to accomplish what you need to do, but beware! Using too many styles can result in you coming across a little loony. You don’t want to be “disqualified” for psychological misuse or plea insanity.
If you can’t even communicate your argument, guess what: you are in sorry shape. You need to remember, losing an argument shows in your character. The outcome of a fierce argument resonates in your society. People WILL remember your statements and you don't want them remembering you as... “That guy who talked a lot of S!#%t, or “The woman with a bad attitude.”
When you argue, do you wish someone would listen to you? Or you could explain something to someone better? What about the constant bicker, not letting you get a word out? Your mouth is a tool. Use it.
There are a number of classic flaws that you probably can’t kick. You might allow your “point” to be derailed and your pride and sensitivity to get the best of you.
You need to learn how to “Plow” through the personal insults and low blows, punish them for bringing it up and build their respect and understanding for your argument, no matter what your opponent’s level of intelligence is.
Learn how to get raises from your boss or from the president, hammer a salesman into submission for the ultimate discount, zip an abusive person’s mouth shut for good. Make sure your insulting neighbor never says a negative word to you again.
Who has the time to go back & forth with someone who is misunderstanding, degrading and talking over you? I don’t know about you, but I don’t have the time for it. I put them to rest easy. I am careful about what I say, composed, fluidly stopping anyone in their tracks that disrespects me in the least bit.
So this is where I come in. My specialty is arguments. Other people specialize in music, numbers or...